Public Speaking 101

Terrified of public speaking? You’re not alone! According to research, 70% of adults report facing communication anxiety and it’s likely that we’ve all worried about public speaking at some point in our lives. I’m no exception, even though I teach public speaking for a living – and I’ve overcome the fear of public speaking myself. Whatever sector you work in, it’s an indispensable professional skill. Want to improve your public speaking? Here’s what I’ve learned…

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We fear fear itself

Most of our fear is that people will notice that we’re nervous. Largely that’s not true. Whilst we may feel like a quivering wreck, the audience see maybe 20% of our nerves. That’s because you’re standing inside your body feeling all those wobbles, whereas the audience are outside your body, not really thinking about you. Audience members are thinking more about themselves than they are about you.

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Nerves are actually helpful

The speakers I coach are best when they have a twinge of nerves. It’s what keeps the buzz in public speaking. When speakers have no nerves, I can see that they’ve become complacent and they do a less good job.

Nerves dissolve when we focus on the audience

Whilst we’re focusing on ourselves it’s possible to feel self conscious and awkward. But if you stop thinking about yourself and ask yourself a question about the audience you’ll find that there are more people than just you in the room. The more you focus on your audience, the better you’ll do at pleasing them too – it’s a win-win!

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Perfect is not the point

Nervous speakers love to over-prepare, it’s a way of controlling a scary situation. If I can just do it right, then they’ll like and accept me as a speaker. But the deal is that perfection isn’t what impresses an audience. We don’t care whether or not you remembered 35 or 36 of your 38 key points. What we want is a human connection with our speaker, which means you can make mistakes and you can be a bit messy, so long as we see that you’re being authentic.

Find a purpose that’s bigger than your fear

Ultimately to overcome nerves you need a reason for speaking that’s bigger than your fear. Think of Gandhi – he was incredibly socially anxious as a young lawyer in South Africa, yet he carried his nation to freedom. That’s because his purpose was bigger than his fear. To truly overcome your nerves, you need to see public speaking not as a horrible thing to get through, but as an act of leadership that you will take up in order to help others. Doesn’t that sound more like something you could do?

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How to be Brilliant at Public Speaking by Sarah Lloyd-Hughes is available to buy online here. Whatever the occasion, whatever the content, whatever the situation, this book will teach you everything you need to know to plan, prepare and deliver any speech or presentation and will give you the skills to deliver it with style, wit, charm and confidence. Discover expert tips, tricks, tools and techniques that will help you build on skills and abilities you already have so you can stand up in front of any audience and really wow them. 

Point of View

You might wonder what you’re letting yourself in for if you search for ‘adult colouring book’, but you’ll be relieved to hear it is definitely SFW. At the time of writing, four of the top ten bestselling titles are adult colouring books, and their popularity is not confined to the UK – this is a global phenomenon. 3.5 million colouring books were sold in France alone last year. I love the idea that people from all over the world are sitting down with a pack of colouring pencils and finding some peace and quiet from colouring in.

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There’s something for everyone, which is just as it should be. Creative activities shouldn’t just be the preserve of designers and artists; the new wave of colouring books are accessible to everyone and are perfect for those who might be short on time and money. With that in mind, it’s not difficult to see why the appeal of these books is so broad, from a busy office worker who finds it difficult to switch off at the end of a long day to someone who is housebound and enjoys colouring as a creative outlet.

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But forget the colouring books of your childhood. The best of the grown-up versions are highly intricate works of art, designed to be coloured and kept. For The Little Books of Colouring: Peace in Your Pocket, I approached Amber Anderson, a brilliantly talented illustrator from London, as we fell in love with the sophistication and beauty of her illustrations, most of which are inspired by the natural world. We wanted the books to be portable, to fit in a handbag or on a bedside table without compromising any of the design or production quality.

I think part of the appeal is that colouring acts as a kind of digital detox. Most of us spend the majority of our days in front of screens of one type or another, constantly refreshing and flicking between devices. But, even though it’s proven to increase our anxiety levels, going cold turkey on tech can be really difficult. It creeps into all areas of our life. We’ve all heard about the benefits of mindfulness, but it can be quite difficult to get your head round exactly what that means in practice. Activities like colouring are really helpful in encouraging busy minds to focus and draw attention. Colouring in an illustration is sufficiently distracting and allows you to simultaneously focus and switch off from the stresses of every day. And, it’s surprisingly satisfying, too.

colouring for adults

There is very little opportunity to do something creative and to feel that sense of satisfaction that comes from producing something of real beauty. And people are proud of the designs they are creating and sharing them on Facebook and Pinterest. There are even colouring groups, like knitting circles, where people meet up and colour. There’s a nostalgia to it. I remember that quiet focus I felt when I was in school surrounded by paper, pencils, some pipe cleaners and maybe a pot of glitter if there was any left after you spilt it on the floor trying to open it. Colouring books have become an accepted way to replicate that feeling for grown ups, and I wholeheartedly approve.

Jane Sturrock is Non-Fiction Editorial Director at Quercus Books. The Little Book of Colouring series is available to buy online here.

Monogram Mania

The height all things chic must surely be the monogram, I have always lusted after monograms. Obviously the traditional Maison Goyard hand-lettered steamer trunk is the ultimate coup. The only Louis Vuitton I find that catch my eye are older pieces which have faded and worn with personalised bright stripes and letters of their owners – courtesy of their Mon Monogram which is also hand-painted, (somewhat amusingly!) over LV’s own monogram. Vuitton have in fact been celebrating their monogram for years; culminating in the recent collaborative project ‘The Icon and the Iconclasts’ which invites artists to interpret the famous motifs for themselves.

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goyard trunks

Of course, in the case of these trunk-makers, the self-branding came about from the purely practical requirement of their customers being able to recognise one’s luggage when travelling, as opposed to some kind of measure of chicness! But lets face it, those travelling on steamers and railways in those days were already heralding their status and chicness just by being there in the first place – monogrammed or not.

The irony of a monogram feeling so luxurious to me still now – when essentially the house monograms of the Maisons (Chanel’s C’s, Gucci’s G’s and LV’s LV’s of course) – are the most copied and faked of all time does not escape me, but it’s not their monograms that I aspire to, it’s mine. My very own initials. I share those of the Queen which I enjoy, they fit together so perfectly. I am in little love with my own initials, its true. Maybe EJR is the new LV? Maybe he was so in love with his own initials this is how it all started… (Actually his son George created it in his honour, meh).

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louis vuitton monogram

vuitton monogram

When I was younger, my parents gave me a Samsonite vanity case with my own initials that I loved – a classic 80’s grey with mint green trim, Ooh La La! I somewhat ludicrously toted it about on various holidays, mostly in North Devon but occasionally it got to go on an aeroplane. It was filled with Kylie and MJ cassettes, Anastasia books and that yellow Sony Walkman. Vanity cases, again, such a chic notion, but as my make-up consists of an Eyeko mascara, Chanel eyeliner palette, Lucas Paw Paw, and a Laura Mercier eye base – a case it does not fill. I always fantasise about being the kind of woman who would travel with a vanity case, or a steamer trunk for that matter. Truth is, I am just not. I’m always hauling scripts and 73 Apple products plus their chargers plus adapters, so alas chic traveller – No. Hateful airline ‘you can only have one bag’ lopsided sweaty back-achey techno traveller – Yes.

Whilst the aim of a personalised Goyard steamer trunk, and or becoming the kind of woman who travels with a vanity case are life dreams conceivably impossible to achieve, I have found some very pleasing alternatives to the monogrammatic fantasy. Little ideas to make your personal life feel a little more chic, in the face of the real life adversity of actually having to do quite a lot of work.

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Via Jean Queen Donna Ida’s fabulous Instagram I came across British brand Rae Feather , which ties together two of my very favourite chic things – French baskets and Monograms. Available in three sizes and strap lengths {and a clutch purse, which has been out of stock for months sadly} these baskets are an affordable way to commence this initialled life dream. Baskets are just brilliant and I’ve waxed lyrical about them before. You can chuck everything in and feel like you are tripping around the Riviera instead of carrying parsley, sweet potatoes and CoYo home from the supermarket. Whilst I do appreciate £120 for a basket which is available for around £20 in plain reality, please do appreciate that someone is taking the time to sit and paint, by hand, you on to it. It takes time, so appreciate the artisan. Plus I am comparing this as a solution to a £10,000 + steamer trunk so, you know…

Of course pyjamas are another traditionally popular piece to personalise. Ever since I saw Brigitte Bardot in A Very Private Affair I knew two things for absolute. A. I never want to be a film star. B. I want to wear proper pyjamas.

bardot pyjamas

silk pyjamas

I find pyjama buying as tricksy as bikini buying. The top and bottom halves of my body seem, according to pretty much all retailers, to belong to totally different women. Buying anything for your bust and bottom at the same time is surely one of the worst ideas in all retail history?

Whilst badly-sized swimwear has a much more widespread effect as it is mostly worn in a public space. Coloured Lycra creeping upwards, or sagging away from the body; the idea of badly-fitting pyjamas is almost more uncomfortable for me. They are a luxury item; to be enjoyed solo as one potters around one’s abode, making watching CSI Miami repeats or dusting the books feel glamorous. If you subscribe to wearing any pyjamas at all, you subscribe to letting in a little bit of chic, otherwise you’d just wear a hideously misshapen and weirdly grey t-shirt with a tea stain down it to bed – you know I’m right.

poplin pyjamas

Breakfast at Tiffanys Pyjamas

poplins monogram

Audrey’s slumber kit in Breakfast At Tiffanys is of course legendary. Sleeping eyes are always a must, and earplugs perpetually fall out anyway so why on earth should they not in fact be tasselled? The nightshirt championed here proffers an equally fancy bed wear option, although the practicality of actually sleeping as the fabric python suffocates me slowly through the night terrifies me into avoiding them.

I love Poplin’s offer of simple, yet classic luxury loungewear, and they employ Hand & Lock, a London embroidery institution since the 1700’s, to hand embroider their PJs with your initials. Now if the idea of this luxury excess in order to eat a bar of Green and Black in front of Orange is the New Black seems wild, then you can always wear them outside of course, to increase that price-per-wear value.

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olivia von halle

Since about 2012, it has been touted by The Fashion Industry as 100% acceptable, nay chic, to wear your PJs in the day. Street style snappers at Fashion Weeks across the globe have captured the fash pack sporting the masculine silky separates worn with classic staples, as well as worn in full two-piece printed glory. I recommend Olivia von Halle’s beautiful prints for this, as well as faux fur fox Shrimps’ collaboration with Poplin. Both of which can, of course, be monogrammed…

Five Minute Therapist

It’s fair to say that not everyone gets chance to access their own personal facialist, but yes, we’re pretty good to you here at RIH. Anti-ageing queries or acne concerns? Puffy eyes or fine lines? Each month, we give you the chance to put your questions to super facialist and skincare expert Antonia Burrell…

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I’m late to the party with adopting a skincare routine, but now cleanse, tone and moisturise twice a day. I find the whole serum thing really confusing though – do I honestly need one? How are they different to moisturisers and what do they actually do? When should I use one? They seem to be pretty expensive but I don’t want to have to spend loads. I’m 28 and have combination skin with dry patches from time to time.

Serums are very targeted treatments designed to meet a whole host of skin needs – this might be anti-ageing, pigmentation or fine lines, for example. The use of serums really depends on your individual skincare needs; they are very different to moisturisers in that they don’t moisturise the skin as such, they just treat any concerns you have. Serums are usually a little pricier as they have a much higher concentration of ingredients, making them very potent but highly effective!


For dry/combination skin I recommend using a balancing serum to gently bring the skin back to its natural equilibrium. Plant-based formulations that are rich in vitamins and anti-oxidants are a great place to start, and always look for products that contain vitamins A, C & E. Over 90% of the signs of ageing are caused by free radical damage, so it’s important to incorporate as many topical anti-oxidants into your body (inside and out) as possible. Start thinking about your anti-ageing regime now and your skin will thank you for it later!

Particular ingredients I would recommend for dry/combination skin include Wild Carrot Root as it’s rich in vitamin A which helps to heal dry skin whilst stimulating collagen renewal. Cedarwood is also great for combination skin as it is a natural astringent for oily skin conditions. Palma Rosa oil is also a natural oil balancer which also works to hydrate and calm. I also love Sea Buckthorn as it’s a very rich source of vitamins A and E, carotenes and flavonoids and is second only to Rosehips when it comes to vitamin C content. It is also rich in several vitamins and minerals. Sea-buckthorn oil promotes skin repair and is one of the most beneficial oils for ageing skin.

Many people who suffer with oily skin tend to steer clear of using natural oils in skincare for fear of making it worse, when in fact it’s what the skin needs. The truth about oil lies within the most basic principle of chemistry – like dissolves like. Oil dissolves oil so by using the right oils you can cleanse your pores of dirt and bacteria naturally, gently and effectively. What’s more, beneficial oils extracted from natural botanicals, vegetables and fruit can replace dirty oil build-up leaving skin healed, nourished and protected and you with clear, glowing skin that is free of imperfections.

I don’t recommend using a serum all the time, and only use sparingly underneath your moisturiser to address any specific concerns you have. If you do suffer with severe dry patches I recommend focusing more on finding a good hydrating moisturiser rather than a serum.

beackstage skincare serums

Have a question you’d like to put to Antonia? Pop your details below and if you’re lucky, you’ll get the answer to your query in a future edition of Five Minute Therapist! What are you waiting for – not everyone gets access to an A-List facialist just like that!

Don’t Interrupt!

I’m a stickler for good table manners. I can’t bear it when people don’t pick up their feet. And finger drumming really gets my goat. I have, I am aware, multiple bêtes noires; but by far the most unpleasant “bad habit” in my book is interrupting. As bad behaviour goes, it’s one of the most common and also the most damaging to interpersonal relationships, but luckily, it’s also one that’s relatively easy to correct.


Interrupting during a conversation takes two main forms: cutting someone off to make one’s own point and finishing someone’s sentence for them. Both drive me mad. The former simply shows a lack of respect for the other person, their right to express themselves, and what they have to communicate. It says, “What I want to say is more important and/or interesting than what you are already in the middle of saying, and frankly, I don’t much care about what you’re trying to tell me”. The latter annoys me because I want to be allowed to express my opinions in my own specifically chosen words. When someone cuts me off and finishes my sentence for me, they almost never say exactly what I was going to say, so I feel like my point is misrepresented and I’m not being fully “heard”. I regularly want to shout “I’m not running out of steam and I don’t need help to make my point; am I just not speaking quickly enough for your liking?” but of course, I’m British, so I just seethe silently instead…

Being regularly interrupted makes the “interuptee” feel unheard, frustrated, disrespected – none of which helps build a relationship with another person, which, ironically, is often the point of having a conversation in the first place. I don’t know anyone who enjoys being interrupted… which is odd since we are almost all both victims and perpetrators of this destructive conversational habit.


So, what happens when you’re the interrupter? In addition to the message you’re sending the person you’re talking to, you’re not doing yourself any favours either. How stressful is it to be responsible for both sides of a conversation – both your own and the end of every sentence your partner tries to get out? How tense do you get when, instead of listening and then responding, you’re formulating your reply to your friend as they’re talking so that you can start making it even before they’ve finished? How often do you finish someone’s sentence only for them to say, “Well, no, that’s not where I was going with that”?

Curbing the urge to interrupt – to butt in with my idea or push people to make their point quicker – is something I’ve been working on for a while now, and I have to say the benefits are both powerful and immediate. When I’m not thinking ahead to my turn to speak, I can fully listen to friends, right to the end of their sentence or story – which lets me relax and makes them feel unrushed and heard – which makes them relax too. Since I’ve heard their full point in their own words, my replies are more pertinent and structured; which makes for a richer conversation.


It’s no fun being interrupted, but short of actually calling someone out on their bad habit, there’s not much you can do about it. But in a spirit of being the change you want to see in the world, you can work on your own tendency to interrupt, and it really is win-win. The less you do it, the better your conversations and, as everyone relaxes and gets used to being fully heard, the less likely it is that you yourself will be interrupted. So, next time you’re chatting to friends, mentally note how often you start talking before others have really finished. The first step in changing a habit is to acknowledge it – and when you do start noticing, I bet you’ll shock yourself. And when you start to stop yourself and force yourself to listen patiently, you’ll be amazed at the effect it has on both the people around you and on your own stress levels and enjoyment of the conversation!

Five Minute Therapist

It’s fair to say that not everyone gets chance to access their own personal facialist, but yes, we’re pretty good to you here at RIH. Anti-ageing queries or acne concerns? Puffy eyes or fine lines? Each month, we give you the chance to put your questions to super facialist and skincare expert Antonia Burrell

My skin is generally pretty good but at that time of the month I tend to get the worst breakouts. Hormonal spots seem to be so hard to get rid of – never mind prevent! Have you got any tips for what I can do about these as it’s actually really annoying and distressing.


Spots and blemishes brought on by our hormones are very difficult to manage, as our menstruation cycle is a natural occurrence within our bodies that we’re unable to change! Although we’re lead to believe that spots appearing during this time are caused our period, these spots are in fact caused by ovulation. The truth is, spots actually develop under our skin for a lot longer than we think, so spots caused by ovulation only actually become visible a couple of weeks later during our period – hence the confusion!

During ovulation our bodies produce hormones including testosterone which stimulates the production of sebum on our skin, blocking pores and promoting the onset of breakouts. An increase in our core temperature also means we are more likely to sweat, so the key here is deep cleansing to remove excess sweat, sebum and build up. A good cleansing routine around the time of ovulation will work wonders – I recommend double cleansing morning and night for good measure.


It’s also worth stepping up your exfoliation routine around this time to gently buff away dead skin cells, and following with a deep cleansing mask. Keeping your hands clean is also important to prevent grime and build up spreading to your face, so wash your hands often or use some antibacterial gel or wipes.

Some women can just tell, but if you’re unsure as to when you’re ovulating I recommend using a period tracker app to help you monitor your cycle. You can get some good ones for free on the App Store, such as P Tracker Lite.


Have a question you’d like to put to Antonia? Pop your details below and if you’re lucky, you’ll get the answer to your query in a future edition of Five Minute Therapist! What are you waiting for – not everyone gets access to an A-List facialist just like that!

Don’t Wait

Pearl S. Buck is one of those writers that I keep meaning to read and never quite get around to. My mother raves about East Wind: West Wind, and friends sing her praises but I regularly forget her while browsing Amazon. So, her name remains on my list of books and authors to investigate, which is a sorry state of affairs given that it is one of this great lady’s pearls of wisdom that I consistently invoke when I’m feeling unmotivated and just can’t be bothered.

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The words of the prolific writer, Pulitzer and Nobel prize-winner, and political activist that never fail to get me off the sofa are:

“I don’t wait for moods. You accomplish nothing if you do that.
Your mind must know it has got to get down to work.”

Even as I write this, I have Pearl to thank – I didn’t much feel like writing today, but I heard her words ringing in my head as I put on the kettle this morning and so went to set up my laptop.

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The thing is, I love writing. And I’m guessing Pearl did too. But it sounds like she, like me, often found herself not “in the mood” to sit and type. At least not at first – once I’m here and the old Earl Grey is kicking in, I am in “flow” and totally absorbed in what I’m doing; my mood changes. But I know that if I waited for my mood to change in order to start I would wait all day.

The same is true when I look at my to-do list. I don’t much feel like doing any of it: find a place to get watch repaired; complete tax declaration; organise my computer files. Hard to get excited about these tasks when the box set of season 2 of 24 beckons to me from the other side of the sitting room (yes, I know, I’m way behind but I’ve only recently discovered the joys of the show having resisted for years thinking oh-so-wrongly that I wouldn’t like it). But I know that if I wait to be in the mood to look for a good jeweller to fix my watch, I risk turning up late for every appointment I make for the foreseeable future. So, I think of Pearl and get on with the job in hand.


It’s a little like the famous “feel the fear and do it anyway”. Pearl’s nugget of wisdom is “feel no motivation whatsoever and do it anyway”. I like the way she doesn’t even suggest you try to motivate yourself or pretend to be inspired. It’s a gloriously down-to-earth and brutally honest way of accepting that sometimes we just can’t wait to feel ready before we have to get stuck in.

I have found ways to help myself, of course, as I work towards achieving Pearl-esque productivity levels. I operate a rewards scheme: tick three things off the to-do list and you can have a cup of tea and one hour of the long-suffering Jack Bauer; or, return three phone calls and then you can have a piece of cake. I also break tasks down: this morning, I’ll pull out all the necessary documents for the tax declaration, this afternoon I’ll do the calculations, tomorrow morning, I’ll do the online return.


It also helps to sweeten the deal: get onto the yoga mat for half an hour, but put the radio on while doing so; have an old episode of Sherlock on the TV while clearing out a cupboard. Pearl’s discipline mixed with Mary Poppins’ spoonful of sugar is a force to be reckoned with.

Taking Stock

The benefit of regular clear-outs is a fact universally acknowledged. Or at least it is in my house. My husband was stunned by the joy I felt when they installed massive clothing donation bins at the entrance to the metro nearest our flat; and I challenge anyone not to feel freer, lighter and more in control after taking a bag load of I’ll-never-read-these-again books to Oxfam.


But what about moving the stock-take from the back of your closet into your mind and soul? When it comes to having a good sort-out, there are many areas of our lives that would benefit from a little light dusting and polishing, not just the kitchen cupboards. Coaching offers a wealth of great tools to do just that – take stock of your life and see where your figurative house needs to be put in order. While it is always more helpful to do such exercises with a qualified coach, it is also possible to use them on your own and glean some helpful insights.

The Wheel of Life is a simple way to identify the various major “bits” of your life, assess your satisfaction with them, and start coming up with a plan to raise that satisfaction level.

The Wheel of Life aka Not so Trivial Pursuits

Draw a circle on a piece of paper and divide it into wedges like the pies in a game of Trivial Pursuits (number of wedges is your choice – starting with six is pretty manageable). Assign a theme to each wedge. Themes are areas of your life that you wish to take a look at – or indeed, they can just be areas that spring to mind. In this exercise, your subconscious is a good guide.

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A few examples: one wedge might be “family”, which for some might mean “me, my partner and our kids” but for other people might mean “parents, grandparents, siblings” – and those people might choose to put “partner/love” and “children” into separate wedges on their own. What you mean by each of your themes is your business, as long as you are clear about how you load the word you choose. Other wedges might be “money”, “leisure”, “health”, “career”, “spirit”… it’s a very personal choice.

On your marks…

Once you have your themes, take some time to consider each one and to rate your satisfaction with this part of your life from 1 to 10 – draw lines in each wedge so that 1 is a line near the interior of the circle, and 10 is the further edge. Like so:

wheel of life

You’ll probably end up with a very bumpy wheel!

Get set…

The next step within a coaching session would be to discuss each area and the mark attributed to it, and to choose one or two to work on. On your own, you can take your time to look at each one and think about what makes your health an 8 but your love life a 4 – talking to a friend can also help. Then, taking each one in turn, think about what it would take to turn that 4 into 5. Consider specifics: spending more time with your other half? Eating dinner at the table rather than in front of the TV? A monthly date night? A daily lunchtime phone call? More cuddling? What would it take to bump it up to a 6? And then a 7…


The idea isn’t to go from a 2 to a 10 in two weeks flat, but to identify areas for change and improvement that will eventually harmonise the levels of satisfaction across all your wedges. A wheel with lumps and bumps cannot roll. But the challenge of trying to turn a career “3” into a 10 can simply be paralysing. Concentrate on the areas that naturally attract your attention and list small, actionable changes.

And Go!

Once you have some action ideas, consider which you can actually put in place, and, crucially, which you want to put in place. It’s no good choosing “go for a weekly run” if you have absolutely no desire to go running. Yes, it might bump your “body image” score up to a 7, but your “time for fun” score might take a hit. I advise kicking off just one action per week and taking a moment at the end of each week to see what’s working for you.


Take your time. Your Wheel of Life is ever-changing. Even if you managed to take all your wedges up to a perfect 10, at some point you might decide to buy a house, move abroad or have a baby, and new wedges will appear for you to work on. The idea isn’t to strive for a perfect circle, but to use the exercise to see where your pain points are, and what you can do about them.

One last thing…

Don’t forget to take a moment to celebrate in the wedges that are looking pretty damn good. If your “friendship” wedge is a healthy 9, why not make a list of all you’re grateful for in your relationships? If your “work” wedge is flying high, why not acknowledge that by taking in some Friday afternoon pastries for your charming colleagues? Work on the low numbers, enjoy the success of the high ones.

Stick It To Winter

Stickers have always fascinated me. As a child, I remember the little rolls of stickers only available in shops which held oh-so-exotic stationery. Stickers of everything you could ever imagine; stars, hearts, cats, circus performers, safari animals, sailing boats, flowers, coniferous trees, butterflies, footballers, farm equipment – you name your fancy and it was available as a sticker family. You could you buy a strip for around 75p to decorate and delight. Gold Stars were awarded for successes, little photographic cats adorned exercise books and puffy cartoon characters that smelt like My Little Ponies adhered to your pencil tin forever.


Then as I got older it became all about Panini and I worked through a Garfield album then on to the Premier League as my interests changed towards the teenage. I remember feeling protective of my stickers and not wanting to commit to sticking them on to anything for fear that they would be ruined. I kept them pristine on their shiny sheets wrapped in a clear envelope in a drawer at home for fear of loss, taken out only to contemplate a more permanent home before they were safely stowed away once more.

anya hindmarch stickers

Esteemed accessory designer Anya Hindmarch has been having no such sticker commitment problem. Last season she launched her Sticker Shop: a cacophony of stickered delights in collaboration with Charlotte Stockdale of CHAOS.

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Known for her instantly smile-inducing designs, Hindmarch has excelled herself with British foibles of late, and is giving them to us in a self-adhesive form in order to transform your own tired leather. Adorn your accessories with Smileys, rainbows, plasters, on-trend hashtags or even a fried egg to lift them out of their wintry slump. For Autumn/Winter ’15 she has drawn on daily traveller headache-inducing roadwork signs to adorn her fancies, using the somewhat unlikely M25 as inspiration. As this circular car park around London gives me daily grind, at least now I can pretend like I am in FROW at her fashion show as I sit there for hours on end, foot slipping off the clutch.

anya hindmarch motorway stickers

Hindmarch chose this season to launch her first ready-to-wear collection, although she is not touting it as thus, saying ‘it’s more of an extension of the accessories.’ Meaning that her tongue in cheek wit is at least now not only resigned to your handbags.

Olympia Le Tan’s ‘We Don’t Need No Education’ collection for Spring/Summer ’15 features the most fantastic Composition Book clutch realised beautifully in her trademark applique and embroidery. The pink price tag sticker secures her brilliantness in exploiting details in her work, who hasn’t seen that actual exercise book for sale? The allure of the sticker strikes once more.

compositions satchel olympia le tan

As the economy slowly recovers the trend for spending on quality increases. Special pieces that stand out and stand alone, personal pieces to bring you a smile every time you wear them. Pieces that remind us of a time when things weren’t so hard; school days finally do become good memories and a want for the rush of nostalgia takes hold.


I recently invested in a grown up navy Hindmarch Ebury Tote, however in keeping with this nostalgia notion it is resplendent with a Smiley and ‘Have A Nice Day’ punch out, and boasts striped fluro rope handles that take me right back to weekends sailing with my Papa and summers crushing on my windsurfing instructor at Willen Lake. I have a selection of stickers ready to go, so all I have to do now is get over my fear of removing the stickers from the packets and adhere to a commitment.

The Voice of Worry

I have of late – but wherefore I know not – lost all my mirth. Well, not quite; I’m certainly nowhere near Hamlet’s level of sadness and introspection, but I have found myself somewhat on the grumpy side recently. You know, that state where everything seems like a big deal, nothing strikes you as terribly funny, and life just feels like hard work.


The makings of such a mood can come from any quarter; professional setbacks, disappointments in friendships, money problems. For me, it has been due to feelings of bog-standard overwhelm. I am coming up to the sixth month of my first pregnancy, and my husband and I are currently looking to buy a house and move just outside of Paris. Not bad when it comes to life-changing decisions, huh? Add to that our full-time jobs, families, friends, my writing and coaching, and it all seems like a mountain from which even the fearless Bear Grylls would run screaming.

The inconvenient truth

And the thing is, there’s not really much to be done about overwhelm. You can roll your sleeves up, make a plan, start a list, make a Plan B, and discuss options with your partner ad nauseam, and those actions are practical and wise. But they’re not always enough to quiet the nagging little voice that pipes up at 2am and whispers some variant on, “It won’t all be ok; you won’t get through this; you can’t manage”.

GAG thyself

It is my firm belief that the only thing to do in those situations is to GAG oneself. No, we’re not getting into 50 Shades territory here; GAG stands for “Get A Grip”. It’s an old expression that sounds rather shocking nowadays, doesn’t it? In an age that favours self-examination even to the point of self-torture over the old “buck up” attitude, exhorting someone to simply “get a grip” seems callous. But I maintain that sometimes it’s the only way.

to do listing

It’s like a mental self-slap. A reminder that we really are dealing with first-world issues, here. My husband is fond of asking me to imagine how I would feel if the things overwhelming me weren’t happening – if I weren’t able to have children, if we couldn’t envisage getting a bigger home, if I didn’t have employment, friends that want my time, family who need me… The simple answer is: I’d feel pretty rubbish (he can be infuriatingly right at times)!

It doesn’t always work. Sometimes a problem really is a problem and needs talking through and solving, but it’s often just a proliferation of activity, obligations and, well, life that puts us in a tail spin. That’s when a self-shake and a firm “For God’s sake, Jo, Get. A. Grip.” works wonders for me.

DO try this at home

GAG-ing seems to work best when performed using a specific accent. I occasionally hear a plummy-voiced Malory Towers– type sports mistress barking at me. You may prefer an American drill sergeant or even an exasperated version of yourself. Sometimes I like to hear my Scottish grandmother’s voice softly burring, “Now, now, dear, you know I love you, but do try to get a grip for goodness sake”. She never said anything of the kind to me, but somehow the vision of this strong, no-nonsense yet kind and loving woman works every time.

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GAG-ing is also best achieved when used entirely on its own. No extra pep talk, no list of “examples of times when it has all been ok in the past as so will be this time too”, no reasoning or cajoling. Just a mental “No Entry” sign that brooks no argument. It’s not easy at first, but if you GAG each time you head back down the road of ovewhelm, it eventually comes more quickly and more naturally. Give it a try. I’m interested to know how it works for you!