Emotional Intelligence 101

Gaining an understanding of emotional intelligence is an often overlooked aspect of career success. Here, nine short steps give you the tools to master emotional intelligence in the workplace.

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What makes a great leader? Knowledge, smarts and vision, to be sure. To that, Daniel Goleman, author of “Leadership: The Power of Emotional Intelligence,” would add the ability to identify and monitor emotions — your own and others’ — and to manage relationships. Read more: The New York Times.

Heads Up

For the first time since 1987, a film directed by a woman will open the Cannes Film Festival. La Tete Haute (Heads Up) is actress and director Emmanuelle Bercot’s fourth full-length film. La Tete Haute follows a juvenile delinquent’s journey as he grows up, with a social worker and children’s judge trying to keep him on the straight and narrow.

It’s also Bercot’s second film starring legendary French actress Catherine Deneuve, following her 2013 release Elle S’en Va. It’s great to see a female-directed film occupying the opening slot at Cannes – let’s not leave it almost 30 years next time eh?

 

What’s Good Enough?

We’re taught to aim for the best and with thanks to our current obsession with FOMO, the idea of going for ‘just good enough’ probably doesn’t really appeal. But how about if opting for good enough would actually lead to a happier, more positive existence?

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How settling can make people happier and more satisfied than gunning for “the best”. Read more: The Atlantic.

RIH Eats

From best-selling cookery writer and presenter Anjum Anand, these Grilled Chickpea Seekh Kebab Wraps are perfect for a casual supper – or delicious packed lunch. The brains (and tastebuds!) behind authentic food range The Spice Tailor, Anand specialises in healthy, contemporary Indian cuisine full of flavour.

Normally seekh kebabs are made with lamb mince cooked on skewers and served as they are or wrapped in thin flatbreads with some crunchy bits. This protein-packed version is equally delicious and satisfying enough to make a healthy, light meal. I know it is odd to see cheese in Indian food but it really helps to add some umami flavour here and helps bind the kebabs together. You can also lightly fry them in a non-stick frying pan (with or without skewers) in which case you don’t need to brush with butter. You can leave out the butter if you are being healthy and eating them with the yoghurt, if not you should add the fat as they will taste a bit dry.

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1.5 tbs. vegetable oil
1 medium red onion, half finely chopped and half finely sliced (for the wrap)
2 tsp. finely chopped ginger
2 good cloves garlic, finely chopped
400g can chickpeas, drained and rinsed
1-2 tsp. finely chopped green chillies to taste
3 tbs. finely chopped red capsicum
20g grated cheddar cheese

1 tsp. cumin 
1 tsp. garam masala
1 tsp. dried mango powder (or serve with lemon wedges)
3 tbs. breadcrumbs
Salt and freshly ground black pepper or to taste
2 small fistfuls of chopped fresh coriander
1 rounded tbs. butter, soft or melted
Large skewers, soaking in water as you cook

To Serve

6 Tortillas or thin flatbreads
8-10 Iceberg lettuce leaves
Small fistful of chopped mint leaves
Small fistful of coriander leaves
½ lemon
250g thick Greek yoghurt

 
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● Mash or blend the chickpeas until they are a coarse puree.

● Heat the vegetable oil in a small non-stick frying pan and add the chopped onion and some salt; cook until soft and then golden. Add the ginger, garlic and chilli and stir fry over a gentle flame for 1 minute or until the garlic is just cooked. Add the cumin and garam masala with a splash of water and cook out until there is no moisture left in the pan and you can see the mixture frying in the oil. Add this to the mashed chickpeas, along with the fresh coriander, dried mango powder, cheese, capsicum and breadcrumbs. Mix well together, taste and adjust the seasoning to taste. Leave to cool.

● Meanwhile, stir the handful of chopped mint and coriander into the yoghurt along with salt and pepper to taste. Marinate the sliced onions in a good squeeze of the lemon juice.

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● Roughly portion the kebab mix into 6 and with slightly oiled hands, form the seekh kebabs around the skewers, you can make these round or slightly flattened. Preheat your grill setting in your oven place the skewers on oiled foil and place about 4” away from the hot grill and cook for 10 minutes, carefully turning halfway, or until browned on both sides.

● Place the breads in foil in the oven to heat through for the last 3-4 minutes before the kebabs come out. Brush the cooked kebabs with the butter (they will be dry and quickly absorb the fat). Quickly ease the kebabs off the sticks and place straight on the breads, top with the onions, lettuce and yoghurt, wrap and serve.

The Fashion Fix

It is a truth universally acknowledged that the French are impossibly chic. And it doesn’t get much chicer than Inès de la Fressange, now does it? You might think that money can’t buy you style – and certainly not at high street prices – but you would be wrong there. Since its launch last year, the Ines x UNIQLO collection has been going from strength to strength, proving a sell-out success each season: “UNIQLO and Ines want to help women discover the clothes that they most want to wear every day, and this is where their journey begins.”

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For Spring/Summer 2015, de la Fressange’s take on ‘unconventional luxury’ is all about effortless summer style. Inspired by Morocco, the 27-piece collection includes beautifully-made basics designed to be dressed up or down – whether you’re packing for a beach break or channelling sophisticated city chic.

“I think it’s important to look elegant, even if you have limited items. We can dress well even with just a few pieces of clothing. Luxury isn’t about buying expensive things. It’s about having good taste and enjoying beautiful things,” says de la Fressange.

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In cotton, cashmere, silk and linen, the Ines x UNIQLO collection relies on beautiful fabrics – and, of course, impeccable tailoring and fit. Every single piece feels easy to wear, with subtle sportswear-inspired detailing featuring in relaxed jogger-style trousers, slip-on dresses and retro bombers.

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Although de la Fressange’s legendary androgynous insouciance dominates the collection, there are nods to a sensual femininity too, with floral tea dresses and button-through skirts. With pretty polka dots and vintage-inspired florals working alongside muted neutrals, it feels very Paris-meets-Provence. Summer fashion is all about simplicity – it looks like Ines x UNIQLO has come up with yet another winner. Vive la France!

For more information and to shop the collection, see the UNIQLO website.

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Ten Inspirational Feminists

Ten best feminists? Sounds suspiciously like clickbait content – even if it was published to celebrate International Women’s Day. Cynicism aside, this list will make you feel inspired and empowered, seriously! From the Star Trek cast member to the woman who travelled round the world in under 80 days with just handbag for luggage – we say YES to finding out more about brilliant, game-changing women. 

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On Sunday 8 March, it’s International Women’s Day. Helen Lewis pays tribute to 10 inspirational feminists. Read more: The Guardian

Career Satisfaction

How do you feel about your job? Fulfilled, positive and optimistic? Or maybe you’re wondering what your skills and strengths are – and questioning why you’re there at all… How can you maximise your career satisfaction?

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Stuck in a rut? Here are five ways to get the most out of your job whether you’re looking to stay put or move on to pastures new. Read more: Get The Gloss.

Find The One

You’ve been looking for the perfect partner. Searching for the one that’s just right for you. Perhaps you really like the sexy ones. Maybe you feel like you haven’t tried enough? Or it could be that you’re just never completely satisfied… Well now it’s time to #FindTheOne.

Well here’s some news: Triumph is on a mission to help no less than 500,000 women to “Find the One” – the perfectly fitting bra. “The right bra is completely life-changing: it means no more pinching, no more straps or underwire that dig in – only weightless support, total comfort and a beautifully shaped silhouette.” With 129 years of experience in matching women with The One, Triumph certainly knows what they’re doing… Sexy, flirty or sweet – isn’t it time you #FindTheOne?

Find the One bra for you at triumph.com/findtheone.

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Stick It To Winter

Stickers have always fascinated me. As a child, I remember the little rolls of stickers only available in shops which held oh-so-exotic stationery. Stickers of everything you could ever imagine; stars, hearts, cats, circus performers, safari animals, sailing boats, flowers, coniferous trees, butterflies, footballers, farm equipment – you name your fancy and it was available as a sticker family. You could you buy a strip for around 75p to decorate and delight. Gold Stars were awarded for successes, little photographic cats adorned exercise books and puffy cartoon characters that smelt like My Little Ponies adhered to your pencil tin forever.

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Then as I got older it became all about Panini and I worked through a Garfield album then on to the Premier League as my interests changed towards the teenage. I remember feeling protective of my stickers and not wanting to commit to sticking them on to anything for fear that they would be ruined. I kept them pristine on their shiny sheets wrapped in a clear envelope in a drawer at home for fear of loss, taken out only to contemplate a more permanent home before they were safely stowed away once more.

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Esteemed accessory designer Anya Hindmarch has been having no such sticker commitment problem. Last season she launched her Sticker Shop: a cacophony of stickered delights in collaboration with Charlotte Stockdale of CHAOS.

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Known for her instantly smile-inducing designs, Hindmarch has excelled herself with British foibles of late, and is giving them to us in a self-adhesive form in order to transform your own tired leather. Adorn your accessories with Smileys, rainbows, plasters, on-trend hashtags or even a fried egg to lift them out of their wintry slump. For Autumn/Winter ’15 she has drawn on daily traveller headache-inducing roadwork signs to adorn her fancies, using the somewhat unlikely M25 as inspiration. As this circular car park around London gives me daily grind, at least now I can pretend like I am in FROW at her fashion show as I sit there for hours on end, foot slipping off the clutch.

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Hindmarch chose this season to launch her first ready-to-wear collection, although she is not touting it as thus, saying ‘it’s more of an extension of the accessories.’ Meaning that her tongue in cheek wit is at least now not only resigned to your handbags.

Olympia Le Tan’s ‘We Don’t Need No Education’ collection for Spring/Summer ’15 features the most fantastic Composition Book clutch realised beautifully in her trademark applique and embroidery. The pink price tag sticker secures her brilliantness in exploiting details in her work, who hasn’t seen that actual exercise book for sale? The allure of the sticker strikes once more.

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As the economy slowly recovers the trend for spending on quality increases. Special pieces that stand out and stand alone, personal pieces to bring you a smile every time you wear them. Pieces that remind us of a time when things weren’t so hard; school days finally do become good memories and a want for the rush of nostalgia takes hold.

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I recently invested in a grown up navy Hindmarch Ebury Tote, however in keeping with this nostalgia notion it is resplendent with a Smiley and ‘Have A Nice Day’ punch out, and boasts striped fluro rope handles that take me right back to weekends sailing with my Papa and summers crushing on my windsurfing instructor at Willen Lake. I have a selection of stickers ready to go, so all I have to do now is get over my fear of removing the stickers from the packets and adhere to a commitment.

Alternative Therapies

Therapy might seem like a big step for some of us. If we’re just feeling a little down, slightly overtired or a bit stressed, is therapy really the best option? Created by the always-marvellous School Of Life are three rather cool mobile sites/apps: Books as Therapy, Art as Therapy and Food as Therapy. We’ll let you guess which is our favourite…

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Simply select your current malaise, and suggestions will be generated for you in terms of reading matter, artworks or recipes. Food as a therapy for boredom? Why, you need to whip up some Salsa Verde – described as “the gourmet equivalent of a roll in the snow after a hot sauna.” Would you like to feel more grounded? Some easily-made, super-delicious soda bread (made in under 12 minutes) is just the ticket.

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Perhaps you find a lot of people annoying, but you don’t want to be lonely… The book you need to read is Anna Karenina – and of course, there’s a very convincing SoF explanation as to why! Art-wise you could be perusing Pieter de Hooch (your job is banal),  David Hockney (you can’t bear the rain) or Diego Velazquez (you think that everyone but you is having fun). So before you resort to the therapist’s couch, maybe it’s time to sit down with a good book – or cook a batch of strawberry jam!