Life Isn’t Fair

Sometimes it just feels like life is unfair, doesn’t it? Well guess what – it is. The reality is understanding the world around us and the life we’re living comes through the realisation that there’s no ‘should’ when it comes to these things. The real rules to life? Oliver Emberton figures he knows – and his viewpoint is pretty enlightening.

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Unless you’re winning, most of life will seem unfair. The truth is, you need to play by different rules. Read more: Business Insider.

Just Dance!

Ahhh wonderful watching. How many Hollywood classics can you name? Add the subtitles to see all the film titles – from Lady Be Good and Girl Crazy to Broadway Melody and It Happened In Brooklyn… About time for an old school Hollywood movie marathon anyone?

The Meaning of Multi-Tasking

Shopping on your phone as your catch up on Netflix and draft a quick work email, all while eating dinner with a glass of wine? We’re all so busy, on all fronts,  at all times, juggling so many balls these days. But is there a cognitive cost of multi–tasking? Should we try to concentrate on just one task at once? What’s the long term effect of spinning multiple plates?


We are starting to realise that the blessings of a multitasking life are mixed. We feel overwhelmed by the sheer number of things we might plausibly be doing at any one time, and by the feeling that we are on call at any moment. Modern life now forces us to do a multitude of things at once — but can we? Should we? Read more: Financial Times.

Improve Your Emotional Intelligence

What do we like even better than watching a TED Talk? Reading a feature about the best TED Talks, AND THEN watching those TED Talks. So let’s consider emotional intelligence and how to improve it; from stress, sleep and success to compassion, relationships and love – these five TED Talks will give you an instant boost.

5 Brilliant TED Talks That Will Boost Your Emotional Intelligence. These talks will inspire you to think differently about yourself and others. Read more: Inc.

Bathing Belles

Oooh what could be nicer after a hard day at work than a long soak in the tub? We love an indulgent bubble bath – it’s got to be one of the easiest ways to let go of those stresses and strains. As you relax into the scented foam, the rushed commute, boring meetings and looming deadlines don’t really seem so important any more…  Whether you’re a fan of luxurious scented bath oils, detoxifying mineral salts or muscle-soothing soaks, these are the very best bath products to help you relax, unwind and enjoy some much-deserved me-time.

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REN Moroccan Rose Otto Bath Oil

Bamford Jasmine Bath Oil

Dr Hauschka Almond Soothing Bath Essence

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Wild Argan Oil Bubbling Bath

Ginger Float Cream Bubble Bath

Laura Mercier Honey Bath – Ambre Vanillè

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Elemis Jasmine and Rose Milk Bath

Cowshed Spoilt Cow Bath Creme

Green & Spring Indulging Shower and Bath Foam

detox bath salts

Therapie Joie Bath Infusion

Elemental Herbology Detox Botanical Bathing Infusion

African Botanics Kalahari Desert De-Tox Bath Salts

energising bath foam

Moa Fortifying Green Bath Potion

Fuji Green Tea Bath Tea

Rituals Tao Wu Wei Calming Bath Foam

muscle aches bath

Molton Brown Seamoss Stress Relieving Hydrosoak

Mio Liquid Yoga Restorative Bath Soak

Elemis Aching Muscle Super Soak

relaxing bath oil

Aromatherapy Associates Deep Relax Bath Oil

Lucy Annabella Date Night Organic Bath Milk

Kiss the Moon After Dark Bath Oil Dream
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Jo Malone London Nutmeg & Ginger Bath Oil

Maison Caulières Milky Bath Oil

Susanne Kaufmann Oil Bath for the Senses

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Sisley Eau du Soir Perfumed Bath and Shower Gel

Lucy Annabella Muscle Quench Organic Bath Milk

Décleor Bain Relaxant – Relaxing Shower and Bath Gel

deep sleep bathSusanne Kaufmann Alkali Salt

Body Shop Deep Sleep Comforting Milk Bath Float

This Works Deep Sleep Bath Soak

relaxing bath salts

Aveda Soothing Aqua Therapy

Therapie Himalayan Detox Salts

Ila Spa Bath Salts for Inner Peace

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Mauli Himalayan Healing Salts

Peter Wilkin Organics Sooth & Relax Bath Salts

Ortigia Zagara Bath Salts

perfumed bath oil

Floris Rose Geranium Bath Essence

Penhaligons Lily of the Valley Bath Oil

Viktor & Rolf Flowerbomb Bath Foam

Active Wear

For anyone who has ever spent much of the weekend wearing Lycra but not actually exercising…

Public Speaking 101

Terrified of public speaking? You’re not alone! According to research, 70% of adults report facing communication anxiety and it’s likely that we’ve all worried about public speaking at some point in our lives. I’m no exception, even though I teach public speaking for a living – and I’ve overcome the fear of public speaking myself. Whatever sector you work in, it’s an indispensable professional skill. Want to improve your public speaking? Here’s what I’ve learned…

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We fear fear itself

Most of our fear is that people will notice that we’re nervous. Largely that’s not true. Whilst we may feel like a quivering wreck, the audience see maybe 20% of our nerves. That’s because you’re standing inside your body feeling all those wobbles, whereas the audience are outside your body, not really thinking about you. Audience members are thinking more about themselves than they are about you.

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Nerves are actually helpful

The speakers I coach are best when they have a twinge of nerves. It’s what keeps the buzz in public speaking. When speakers have no nerves, I can see that they’ve become complacent and they do a less good job.

Nerves dissolve when we focus on the audience

Whilst we’re focusing on ourselves it’s possible to feel self conscious and awkward. But if you stop thinking about yourself and ask yourself a question about the audience you’ll find that there are more people than just you in the room. The more you focus on your audience, the better you’ll do at pleasing them too – it’s a win-win!

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Perfect is not the point

Nervous speakers love to over-prepare, it’s a way of controlling a scary situation. If I can just do it right, then they’ll like and accept me as a speaker. But the deal is that perfection isn’t what impresses an audience. We don’t care whether or not you remembered 35 or 36 of your 38 key points. What we want is a human connection with our speaker, which means you can make mistakes and you can be a bit messy, so long as we see that you’re being authentic.

Find a purpose that’s bigger than your fear

Ultimately to overcome nerves you need a reason for speaking that’s bigger than your fear. Think of Gandhi – he was incredibly socially anxious as a young lawyer in South Africa, yet he carried his nation to freedom. That’s because his purpose was bigger than his fear. To truly overcome your nerves, you need to see public speaking not as a horrible thing to get through, but as an act of leadership that you will take up in order to help others. Doesn’t that sound more like something you could do?

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How to be Brilliant at Public Speaking by Sarah Lloyd-Hughes is available to buy online here. Whatever the occasion, whatever the content, whatever the situation, this book will teach you everything you need to know to plan, prepare and deliver any speech or presentation and will give you the skills to deliver it with style, wit, charm and confidence. Discover expert tips, tricks, tools and techniques that will help you build on skills and abilities you already have so you can stand up in front of any audience and really wow them. 

The Century – London

Diaries and pens at the ready ladies (or should we say smartphones and tablets) because the cultural extravaganza that is The Century is about to hit London. The Century is a glittering and exhilarating, intelligent and fascinating opportunity to immerse yourself into and explore any decade from 1900 to the year 2000. Pick a decade (or a few) and prepare to be transported back in time with music, talks, fashion, drama, literature and even the very smells that defined each era. No dull history lesson, The Century is a unique opportunity to understand the past better, and in doing so the present, with a smashing assault on the senses.

The Century

The briefest selection of highlights include taking an imaginative journey through the 1930s aboard a luxury ocean liner with Tony Cooke, author of Art Deco goes to Sea, quaffing cocktails that tell the story of LA noir in the 1940s with Times drinks columnist Alice Lascelles, listening to Kerry Daynes expertly decoding the body language of the 1980s TV divas from Dynasty and Dallas, or revisiting the 1990s with digital humanist and technological expert, Dr Tom Chatfield, the writer behind How to Survive in a Digital Age.

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In each era guests will be further immersed into the past by their sense of smell thanks to Lizzie Ostrom, a.k.a Odette Toilette, the author of Perfume: A Century of Scents. Expose your olfactory system to the infamous tang of the 1960s ‘Hippie Stink’ (marijuana), get all nostalgic with the Top 10 Saturday Night Scents we spritzed on through the 1990s and reminisce over the aroma of obsolete technology whether that’s typewriter ink or photographic chemicals of the dark room. As Lizzie says, ‘Scent offers an enticing lens through which to imagine [a] world, as if by smelling the same perfume we might also breathe the same oxygen’.

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The Century is the brainchild of event producer Helen Bagnall of Salon London and scent expert, the aforementioned, Lizzie Ostrom. Salon London is known for curating cultural content for Latitude, Wilderness, Soho House and Tate Britain – you’re in safe hands – and there’ll be a whole host of speakers, authors and experts bringing each decade to life.

the hoxton apartment

The events take place at the beautiful mid-century styled setting of The Apartment at The Hoxton, Shoreditch and tickets start at just £18, including a cocktail. Pick and mix which decades you want to attend or book for the whole day. The decades 1900, 1910, 1920, 1930 and 1940 run between 10:30am and 5pm on Saturday 7 November. Otherwise you can enjoy 1950, 60, 70, 80 and 90 from 10:30am to 5pm on Saturday 14 November. Each session covers a decade and lasts one hour. For more information and tickets, see Salon’s website.

Hormones 101

Suffering from acne. Hormones. Feeling sluggish and tired out? Hormones. Recent weight gain? Hormones. Experiencing mood swings or depression. You guessed it, hormones! So what can we do about them? Here’s how hormones can affect your skin, weight, exercise, mood and energy levels at each stage of your life.


From menopause to your menstrual cycle, perimenopause to a new study on the side-effects of HRT, here’s how to stop your hormones sabotaging your fitness goals, energy levels and skin. Read more: Get The Gloss.

RIH Drinks

We don’t think we’ve ever heard of a cocktail than sounds more fun than the Waggledance Punch… It’s a cocktail that would definitely stay up way past its bedtime, dancing the night away and behaving very badly. From Ryan Chetiyawardana’s Good Things to Drink with Mr Lyan and Friends, this is just one of the tantalising cocktail ideas featuring in the acclaimed bartender’s first book. The founder of London’s award-winning White Lyan and Dandelyan bars, there’s no doubt that Chetiyawardana is a man with some serious expertise and imagination when it comes to delicious drinks. Whether you’re an alcohol aficionado, amateur mixologist or just interested in trying something a little more adventurous than your regular G&T’s, Good Things to Drink is a book to fire up your cocktail-making imagination. From modern takes on classic tipples to brunch cocktails and warming drinks for wintry evenings, intriguing ideas simply explained plus beautifully-photographed pages make Good Things to Drink a delight from start to finish. Now, back to that Waggledance Punch.

waggledance punch

This is as fresh as they come: quick to assemble and equally quick to disappear. It’s a combination of flavours that just works every time, but it’s still complex enough to warrant an extra cup. It’s also a showstopping drink to serve and easily caters to a group. When put together properly it bears no resemblance to those frat-boy concoctions that lurk in tubs in the corner of house parties. It’s perfect to drink outdoors, and if you don’t have a punch bowl, a soup urn or large pot works grand.

1 orange
3 litres/120oz boiling water 3 lemons
3 ripe peaches
8 shots (200ml/8oz) sugar syrup
1 bunch mint
1 bunch lemon verbena
500ml/20oz gin
2 litres/80oz cloudy apple juice
2 bottles chilled prosecco

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To make the orange block, start the day before. Slice the orange thinly and put in an empty ice cream tub or similar. Fill with boiling water, allow to cool and freeze overnight.

Peel then juice the lemons, and stone and slice the peaches. Set the juice and peach aside. Add the lemon peel with the sugar syrup and half the mint and half the verbena leaves to a jug or bowl. Blitz with a stick blender (or in a food processor), then strain through a sieve.

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Add your infused sugar syrup, lemon juice, peach and all the remaining ingredients – except the prosecco – to a punch bowl or soup urn. Mix well (be careful not to tear the herbs). Add the block of orange ice, then the two bottles of prosecco. Stir gently then ladle into cups. Try to get a slice of peach and a few leaves of herbs in each serving.